Why you Asian Guys are not Dating White Girls, and What Can You Do About It!

At last something not related to hot girls or Asian talent. This post will actually be valuable for you Asian Guys wondering how to date white girls or just any girl in general. It is pretty rare to see a White girl with an Asian guy. I can say that fact is true even living in the San Francisco Bay Area, where interracial dating is common.

Here is a small glimpse about myself. I will write my full story out one day, but not today. I want to inform blog readers that I do not know what it is like to grow up surrounded by other Asians, even though I am mostly Vietnamese and 1/4 white. I still understand and know the frustrations of the Asian-American culture pretty well because I had to deal with it growing up and I’ve made more Asian friends. I was raised in a predominantly white suburb and do not see me being Asian as a limiting belief, however when I was younger I did. A limiting belief is something that we see is hindering us at the success we want, even though in reality the belief  is not even true.

When I was younger back in elementary I believed that being Asian was the main reason why I was not popular in school and the main reason why my 3rd grade crush didn’t like me. As I went on to middle school I knew it was not the case at all; it was me as a person and my personality. Since I had no Asian friends I did not end up with the typical Asian male belief stystem. Most Asian guys have a limiting belief about themselves that because they are Asain they can’t get white girls. I did not adapt the limiting belief that being Asian was holding me back. I accepted the fact that me as a person is holding myself back from the success I wanted.

Once a person accepts the fact that who they are as a person, not by what they are is holding them from the success they want. The person can decide on how to become successful with what they have and grow as a person, like myself and many others.

In order to have the type of success you want with white girls as an Asian guy you need to get rid of the limiting belief that being Asian or a minority is holding you back from the success you want with women and in life.  The belief that being Asian is not attractive is holding you back. I know it’s easier said than done but I will show you how to develop new beliefs that will make you irresistible to white girls.

The most important thing to do in order to be successful in anything at life is to own up and take action. Yes, it’s obvious but to be successful with white girls you need to take action by approaching and talking to white girls. This will be the key thing to your growth in success with white girls. It will shatter your limiting belief that being Asian is holding you back. This will help develop a new mindset that you are an attractive person, because you’re going after what you want. Not only will this help develop your inner-self but also your outer portrayal to others since it will help develop your social skills with women.

So much can happen if you just go up and talk to girls.  Soon with enough approaches you will know that it was not so bad talking to white girls. They do not reject you for being Asian, they rejected you because you lacked some form of social skills with women. Some of them are actually nice and appreciate Asian guys, but you would never have known if you didn’t talk to them. Once you internalize that it’s not so bad talking to white girls re-frame your belief in that being Asian will not hinder you in getting white girls. As an Asian male you need to learn some social skills and learn how to flirt with girls. This will be in a future post, but for now go out and start talking to white girls.


Here's AW hanging out with a few girls he met and what he was like in college.

7 Responses to “Why you Asian Guys are not Dating White Girls, and What Can You Do About It!”

  1. alphawolf
    June 23, 2011 at 1:05 am #

    Dang whos that good looking Asian guy with the hot blonde in the homepage pic?!?!

  2. alphawolf
    June 23, 2011 at 1:28 am #

    Seriously though, I would add that there are some macro social pressures, here in the US, that make it slightly harder for Asian guys to date white girls. That being said, a focus on becoming a more interesting, dynamic person will pay off much more handsomely than a focus on why Asian guys don’t get hot white girls.

  3. kevin
    June 23, 2011 at 1:54 am #

    I completely agree that a focus on becoming an attractive person will pay off more than focusing on why Asian guys don’t get hot white girls. We need to understand our belief systems and mindset in order to become attractive. We need to do things that will not negatively affect the mindset and inner belief system in the process, as well have a good belief system that will affect our actions and create positive results with white girls.

    It may be true in the US that being an Asian male makes it harder to date white girls, however IMO most Asian guys use it as an excuse not to date white girls, which is a shame. Instead of dwelling on why Asian guys don’t get white girls, In my next posts I will focus on how to be an attractive Asian male.

  4. June 24, 2011 at 2:01 pm #

    I love the picture.

  5. Aniiko
    June 28, 2011 at 3:39 pm #

    I want to thank you for writing this. Bieng a minority does not hold you back as much as you do it to yourself! I’ve has Asian guys stare at me and blush at me and believe it or not tell ne that they have had crushes on me long time affftteerrr the fact.

    Irony they even see me with many of my friends who happen to be Asian or latino. They still just stare at a distance. I know this is partially my fault I should muster the butterfly balls to approach …. I am a girl and I am traditional, I feel if he wants me and has true interest he should speak up.

    Ohh the dilemma

    I really love your article ty

  6. will
    January 29, 2012 at 5:39 am #

    the simple answer to all the asian guy white girl equation is just go for them. ask them out.

    theres nothing else to it.


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